A lady came to me four years ago for a session, I asked why she decided to come to me and she answered that she wants to have committed, loving relationship. I asked her how her relationships have been until now, she replied that when ever she is in a serious relationship leading to marriage, she did her best to destroy it and ran away. We entered the meditation zone, and discovered her motivating story.
Once upon time, in a far away land, Natalie was born to very happy young parents.
She was a loving, wise, and happy baby, always smiling and laughing out loud.
Natalie loved people and was loved by all. She grew up to be a very beautiful young woman, very educated and full of joy, until she was hurt. When Natalie was hurt, she became quiet and sad, she wouldn't listen or respond, she would leave the person walk away to be able to calm down, and then to come back and express her feelings and her thoughts. Her family and friends knew that when Natalie is in a hurt mood, it is better to leave her alone.
Every Monday and Thursday Natalie was going with her friends to the farmer market in the city center. It was a place to see men and be seen by men. The farmers market was a meeting place for young people from villages in the area. On one of those days, Natalie was at the market as usual, picking vegetables, when she saw a handsome man approaching her with a friend of hers. The moment she saw him she knew that he is the one for her. It was the first time that she saw him, as he was from a far village. They fell in love, and their love was growing daily. Everything felt exactly like Natalie imagined and wished for.
One day Natalie was invited to a big party in her village with her boyfriend. In the party every time that a male friend was approaching Natalie, her boyfriend became green with jealousy. Natalie had to leave the party early because she couldn't stand it. She was so hurt, so she walked away not able to speak with her boyfriend. The day after, her boyfriend came with a ring and asked her to marry him. Natalie was so happy, she forgot about his jealousy and agreed immediately.
After a month they got married. The wedding was during the day, outside in the field. Friends and family arrived from the two villages to celebrate with them. Natalie was the most happy bride, she was welcoming her guests with kisses and hugs. The jealousy of her husband appeared again at the wedding day, while one of the guests, the husbands best friend was flirting with Natalie. She laughed at him, saying: "I am in love with my husband". Her husband was far enough not to hear, he thought that she is flirting with his friend. His jealousy increased. She saw his face and felt so hurt how come he doubted her love. She turned her back to him and started to walk away to find a quiet space. He thought that she regretted marrying him, blind from his jealousy he stabbed her with a knife. She died on her wedding day.
The sad ending of a motivating story creates a lead block belief. In this story, the lead block belief of this woman is: "marriage equal death". This belief is located in her subconscious, so every time that she is in a relationship toward marriage, she is doing her best to run away. No one wants to die, there for we need to transform the motivating story to a happy ending, enabling her to get married. We have to find in the story details that will give us the opportunity to transform her motivating story to a win win solution.
Read the story again try to find the details that enable you transform the story, change her actions so that the story will move to the path of a happy ending. I will write the new motivating story next week GOOD LIGHT
